Unit 3 Questions
2. Consider the 5 steps to the listening process. Many messages bombard
us regardless of our willingness to listen. It is important to
understand why we attend and respond to a given message. Think about
people to whom you’re always eager to pay attention and listen. What
makes these individuals salient for you? How do they differ from people
to whom you find it difficult to pay attention? What does your answer
suggest about the factors that drive your attention?
I am more eager to listen to people who:
*show intelligence
*match my sense of humor
*humble
*are a person of authority/management at work
*someone who has the qualities/temperament I wish I did
I find it difficult to listen to people who:
*are eager to talk about themselves, without allowing you space in the conversation
*talk slowly
*are less outgoing
*uptight, unhappy
*act like they don't need anyone
*are negative
These answers suggest I am more likely to listen to people I admire, or can further my own pursuits.
3. Take the “Test Your Self-Monitoring” quiz on page 256 in the text. Do you practice more high or low self-monitoring? What are some of the positive and negative relational effects that you have personally experienced from using your level of self-monitoring? Do you think it is important to adapt your self-monitoring level to the context of the situation? Why or why not?
-my score on the quiz was a 1/9
-I am an extremely low self-monitor
positives:
*I'm "real" in almost every situation
*what you see is what you get
*I don't stress out about different social situations
*content with myself and who I am
negative effects:
*my close friends have used words such as "mean" or "cold" to describe me
*talking to new people is sometimes difficult because they think I don't like them
There are only a few situations where you should high-monitor
-searching for or performing at your job
-around your family and elders
-at school communicating with professors
-customer service situations, where someone is performing a service for you
otherwise people can see how worried you are about fitting in, (and trying to get people to like you) instead of being yourself
I am more eager to listen to people who:
*show intelligence
*match my sense of humor
*humble
*are a person of authority/management at work
*someone who has the qualities/temperament I wish I did
I find it difficult to listen to people who:
*are eager to talk about themselves, without allowing you space in the conversation
*talk slowly
*are less outgoing
*uptight, unhappy
*act like they don't need anyone
*are negative
These answers suggest I am more likely to listen to people I admire, or can further my own pursuits.
3. Take the “Test Your Self-Monitoring” quiz on page 256 in the text. Do you practice more high or low self-monitoring? What are some of the positive and negative relational effects that you have personally experienced from using your level of self-monitoring? Do you think it is important to adapt your self-monitoring level to the context of the situation? Why or why not?
-my score on the quiz was a 1/9
-I am an extremely low self-monitor
positives:
*I'm "real" in almost every situation
*what you see is what you get
*I don't stress out about different social situations
*content with myself and who I am
negative effects:
*my close friends have used words such as "mean" or "cold" to describe me
*talking to new people is sometimes difficult because they think I don't like them
There are only a few situations where you should high-monitor
-searching for or performing at your job
-around your family and elders
-at school communicating with professors
-customer service situations, where someone is performing a service for you
otherwise people can see how worried you are about fitting in, (and trying to get people to like you) instead of being yourself
